Crissy ([info]sunseenli) wrote,
@ 2009-06-30 12:45:00
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How Many Lives Are Living Strange?
Sorry for the no-post yesterday; I was trying to do a day's worth of work in a morning, because Marvel and I took a half a day so we could go for our marriage license.

There isn't much I can say about that. Part of it was nerve-wracking, my marriage (me? Really?) is coming up so fast that it's starting to hit me in the face like a punching bag (Weebels wobble, but they don't fall down). Part of it was depressing; the young girls there with their nine-month bellies swollen out underneath white sundresses, clutching their cheap fake flower bouquets in one hand while clutching their miserable-looking grooms with the other. (Please don't think I'm condemning young marriage, young pregnancy, getting married while pregnant, or out-of-wedlock pregnancy; I am condemning anyone who feels they have to get married. You don't. You can work something else out. You're going to be miserable.) Part of it was fascinating; is that beautiful Chinese woman in the glorious red cheong sam (which must've been spray painted on) marrying that young handsome white guy for citizenship, or for love? What on earth is that middle aged black woman doing marrying that young Korean guy--but they look ecstatic. Wow, that curly-haired girl in the white sundress with her best girlfriend in the red sundress as maid of honor, and the two men accompanying them in casual suits sure look happy; they have the right idea.

Then there was the fun of getting our number called and our information reviewed; Marvel has the same real name as his father (who I've referred to as "Billy Batson" on here) so Billy's information popped up when searching Marvel's record, but there was no problem there. It was just a little surreal. And the only time I started giggling out of pure nerves was when the alias section came up blank for Marvel; somehow, I really, really wanted to mention that he's also known as Ghetto Lou, but was sane enough to realize that that was a really, really bad idea.

I'm just really sick to death of anything wedding related and there's still so much to do. But, really, the groom, the officiant, and the license are all that is required to get legally married, so as long as one of us doesn't lose our heads and take off for Bali (anyone have a spare ticket to Indonesia?), we should be set.


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[info]alania
2009-06-30 06:00 pm UTC (link)
Yeah the license place was surreal for us too (Did you go to the one in Jamaica?) but there was this couple right before us in FULL wedding garb, just the two of them, and it just made me all excited for them. XD She looked beautiful too. So nice to see that even if they couldn't afford or didn't want an actual wedding, they got all dressed up for the day. <3

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-01 07:41 pm UTC (link)
Yeah the license place was surreal for us too (Did you go to the one in Jamaica?)

No, that would've been closer to my work, but much farther away from his work (they moved his office to Brooklyn) so we met in the middle in downtown Manhattan.

but there was this couple right before us in FULL wedding garb, just the two of them, and it just made me all excited for them. XD She looked beautiful too. So nice to see that even if they couldn't afford or didn't want an actual wedding, they got all dressed up for the day. <3

That's beautiful. ;_;

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[info]vannadear
2009-06-30 06:14 pm UTC (link)
It's good that you're so level headed about the stress! Though reading your description of the office really piques my curiosity...makes me want to go to our local justice and just sit there people watching while making up background stories for them :3

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-01 07:39 pm UTC (link)
It's good that you're so level headed about the stress!

LOL This is level headed? I thought this was me freaking out!

Though reading your description of the office really piques my curiosity...makes me want to go to our local justice and just sit there people watching while making up background stories for them :3

It is SO INTERESTING, I shit you not. Granted your mileage may vary because we went to the clerk's office in downtown Manhattan, which is like the melting pot of the world, but really, so many different kinds of people at this one common point in their lives was really, really fascinating.

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[info]fory_san
2009-06-30 10:15 pm UTC (link)
As I mentioned in my first entry yesterday, I am really excited about the wedding and I am counting down the days eagerly! :D I wanted to ask if you are registered somewhere because I wanted to get you and Marvel-san a gift of some sort. ^.^

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-01 06:59 pm UTC (link)
As I mentioned in my first entry yesterday, I am really excited about the wedding and I am counting down the days eagerly! :D

Eleven to go! Did you arrange transportation, did you book a hotel room?

I wanted to ask if you are registered somewhere because I wanted to get you and Marvel-san a gift of some sort. ^.^

That is so sweet, thank you so much! We are registered at Amazon:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/registry/wedding/ref=gno_listpop_wr

And at Macy's:

http://macys.weddingchannel.com/gvr/guestregistrydetail.action?retailer_registry_uid=310622748&listby=dept

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[info]fory_san
2009-07-01 08:30 pm UTC (link)
All right I'll see what I can do! I'll surprises' ya's ^~

As for a room/transportation, I will be flying up there and back after the reception since I have to work that following week. :( As I said, there's no way I'm missing this wedding.

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[info]avian_firefly
2009-06-30 11:58 pm UTC (link)
Ghetto Lou....LMFAO

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-01 06:55 pm UTC (link)
LOL That's right, we never did get around to telling that story in LiveJournal, did we?

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[info]loudnbothered
2009-07-01 12:23 am UTC (link)
There a gift registry? If not, you're inheriting something from us, lol.

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-01 06:41 pm UTC (link)
There are two gift registeries! One at Amazon:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/registry/wedding/ref=gno_listpop_wr

And one at Macy's:

http://macys.weddingchannel.com/gvr/guestregistrydetail.action?retailer_registry_uid=310622748&listby=dept

And thank you! <3

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[info]shesarebelyell
2009-07-01 01:20 am UTC (link)
Sounds like it was quite the experience. XD And I agree with you, forcing yourself into marriage isn't necessarily good even if there's a kid on the way. I think some women do it to make sure the man has to help pay for the child, though. D:

Congrats on the license, though. <3

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-01 06:37 pm UTC (link)
Sounds like it was quite the experience. XD

Anything that you have to ask the gubment to provide for you usually is. This was nowhere near as bad as the DMV, though, thank Christ.

And I agree with you, forcing yourself into marriage isn't necessarily good even if there's a kid on the way. I think some women do it to make sure the man has to help pay for the child, though. D:

...I guess that's it. Does marriage really figure into child support? I thought it was more for alimony. I realize I know next to nothing about this, though, my parents waived both when they split.

Congrats on the license, though. <3

Thank you! Thankfully I only have to keep it safe for two weeks, I've been known to lose papers before...

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[info]reikamada
2009-07-01 01:42 am UTC (link)
Oh Wedding crap... how I so don't miss you. That was almost 2 years ago for me. Yippy! But you'll be so glad once it's happened!

We signed our marriage license the day before, on the island they only take licenses Monday-Thursday, because the lady was nice and knew my mom, she came in on friday. ^.^

Anyway, good luck! ^.~

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-01 06:33 pm UTC (link)
Oh Wedding crap... how I so don't miss you. That was almost 2 years ago for me. Yippy! But you'll be so glad once it's happened!

LOL God I hope so.

We signed our marriage license the day before, on the island they only take licenses Monday-Thursday, because the lady was nice and knew my mom, she came in on friday. ^.^

I think we're signing it that day, and then we have the choice of either letting the official officiant mail it in, but we we were warned that in that case we wouldn't get our marriage certificate at the earliest in two weeks, more likely in two months, and I won't be able to use my new last name until we do, or one of us can bring it in in person to the marriage bureau the next day, which while I wouldn't necessarily mind, I can't imagine I'm going to want to spend the next day doing any more errands than necessary, because I'm sure I'll end up with quite a lot on my plate as it is. So I guess we'll see.

Anyway, good luck! ^.~

Thank you! We'll need it.

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[info]mako_jess
2009-07-01 07:32 am UTC (link)
"And I agree with you, forcing yourself into marriage isn't necessarily good even if there's a kid on the way. I think some women do it to make sure the man has to help pay for the child, though. D:"

Agreed. I knew a girl that knew a guy three months, got knocked up by him, then got married that same year. I hope it works out for them, because divorce is tough. But, I just don't see it..for quite a few reasons.

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-01 06:12 pm UTC (link)
Agreed. I knew a girl that knew a guy three months, got knocked up by him, then got married that same year.

Oy. Granted, I think there's some sort of old saying that says we always marry strangers, regardless of how long you know your fiance(e) before you marry them, but that is like...really not knowing each other well. Then again, countries with arranged marriages have roughly the same divorce rate that love-match countries do, so who knows what works and what doesn't?

I hope it works out for them, because divorce is tough. But, I just don't see it..for quite a few reasons.

I think I know to which you are referring, and...yeah. But, I'll go the magnanimous route along with you--I hope it works out for them, too. Especially for the kid.

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