Crissy ([info]sunseenli) wrote,
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Mahou No You Na Isshun Ni Aeru No Ka?
I actually meant to ask this directly after the White Utena photoshoot I did a few weeks ago, but then I kept getting distracted and didn't get around to it. It's still relevant, though.

I don't know if you noticed, but I wasn't wearing my engagement ring in those photos. Up until that morning I hadn't made up my mind one way or the other, but I had taken it off in the bath that morning anyway, and just decided to leave it off, especially because a key element in the entire Utena series are rings, and in this picture in particular, Utena's not wearing her usual rose crest ring, but a more stylized version instead. But I was wondering, what would/do you guys do?

Poll #1424244 Costume Jewelry
Open to: All, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 40

If/When you get engaged/married, do you/would you remove your ring(s) when you cosplay?

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Absolutely! It's not like removing your ring means you're not married anymore. Accuracy is important!
19 (47.5%)

Of course not! Once that ring is on my finger, it'd take a hacksaw to get it off!
11 (27.5%)

I (would) compromise; I (would) cosplay only characters that either wear wedding rings, or that wear gloves so that you can't see that I have rings on.
1 (2.5%)

Other (comment below)
9 (22.5%)



And as always, feel free to explain your answers below.

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[info]cassandramorgan
2009-07-02 05:19 pm UTC (link)
I take my wedding ring off all the time. (I stopped wearing my engagement ring long ago.) Sometimes I forget to put it back on after washing the dishes or whatever so there are times when it'll be days before I remember to put it back on. It's not that big of a deal. Though I like poking fun at my husband when he forgets to put his ring back on ^_^ He takes it off when he's making hamburger patties and, frequently, he'll forget to put it back on for a couple of days. Then I'll find it sitting on the microwave and cry about how much he doesn't love me ^_^

If it bugs you that much, put it on a chain (when it doesn't go with whatever you're wearing) and tuck it under your shirt. *shrug* No big deal.

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[info]alania
2009-07-02 09:23 pm UTC (link)
Same here, and I've only been married two months. I hate rings, period. I only wear my wedding ring when I go out, and when I was engaged, I only wore that ring when I went out too. In fact Paul wears his ring a hell of a lot more than I do. XD

We're married - the ring's just a ring, it doesn't change whether we're married or not. =3

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-08 08:04 pm UTC (link)
I take my wedding ring off all the time. (I stopped wearing my engagement ring long ago.) Sometimes I forget to put it back on after washing the dishes or whatever so there are times when it'll be days before I remember to put it back on. It's not that big of a deal. Though I like poking fun at my husband when he forgets to put his ring back on ^_^ He takes it off when he's making hamburger patties and, frequently, he'll forget to put it back on for a couple of days. Then I'll find it sitting on the microwave and cry about how much he doesn't love me ^_^

::grins:: It's fun to tease, isn't it? My favorite is to randomly sob, "WHY DON'T YOU LOVE ME?" at Marvel, you know, completely unprompted by anything. He knows I'm kidding (and really, there's no way to answer that) but he gets flustered anyway.

If it bugs you that much, put it on a chain (when it doesn't go with whatever you're wearing) and tuck it under your shirt. *shrug* No big deal.

It doesn't really, actually, but I was kind of wondering if it should, I guess? I just really wanted to see how other people felt about this, to see whether I was normal (as if there were any sech animal) or completely off on this one.

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[info]soi
2009-07-02 05:22 pm UTC (link)
I guess maybe my view is skewed by the fact that my parents never wore theirs once when they were married (lmao my mom actually gave hers to me to wear around my neck and pretend I was Frodo) and it never registered in my mind until a few years ago that people actually put that much stock in these things. But I just... don't think taking it off temporarily is a big deal at all, as long as you aren't specifically taking it off to attract attention or whatever.

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-08 08:01 pm UTC (link)
I guess maybe my view is skewed by the fact that my parents never wore theirs once when they were married (lmao my mom actually gave hers to me to wear around my neck and pretend I was Frodo)

That's so cute. :)

and it never registered in my mind until a few years ago that people actually put that much stock in these things. But I just... don't think taking it off temporarily is a big deal at all, as long as you aren't specifically taking it off to attract attention or whatever.

Oh, yeah, of course, that's another matter entirely. Intent DOES matter.

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[info]docthestampede
2009-07-02 05:46 pm UTC (link)
Of course you can take it off -- though some people would suggest and encourage that you keep it with you. As you say - its not like you are no longer married.

Drop it on a chain so you can wear it around your neck, its a common way to hide it but still keep it close.

The ring is only a symbol - and as a symbol it only has strength or meaning if you give it that meaning. What's more important is what you're thinking in your own mind and heart. (And secondary but just as important, what you have worked out with your partner. If the two of you understand and agree, then its absolutely acceptable!)

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-08 07:54 pm UTC (link)
Of course you can take it off -- though some people would suggest and encourage that you keep it with you. As you say - its not like you are no longer married.

That's my thinking.

Drop it on a chain so you can wear it around your neck, its a common way to hide it but still keep it close.

Now see, I'm just not sure that would work with a lot of my costumes. Not much room to hide ANYTHING with Tifa, for example. Heck, Rinoa already HAS a ring around HER neck! A few of the Sailor Moon costumes feature necklaces. I just don't know.

The ring is only a symbol - and as a symbol it only has strength or meaning if you give it that meaning. What's more important is what you're thinking in your own mind and heart. (And secondary but just as important, what you have worked out with your partner. If the two of you understand and agree, then its absolutely acceptable!)

That's...a good point. I didn't bother to ask Marvel when we did the photoshoot, in part because he was still asleep while I was getting ready, in part because he was the photographer and I figured, if he doesn't even notice I don't have it on (which he didn't), he certainly can't get mad at me for taking it off! (My logic is FLAWLESS!)

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(no subject) - [info]docthestampede, 2009-07-09 04:05 am UTC (Expand)

[info]starrcandi
2009-07-02 06:00 pm UTC (link)
my parents have been happily married for 27 years and NEVER wear their rings. haha
it's not a necessity, just visible proof.

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[info]ragamuffinz
2009-07-02 06:03 pm UTC (link)
mine too, though i'm not sure how long mine have been married

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(no subject) - [info]sunseenli, 2009-07-08 07:28 pm UTC (Expand)

[info]sunseenli
2009-07-08 07:50 pm UTC (link)
And see, my mom never took her ring off, and they got divorced after 18 years. So I guess it really doesn't matter. ^.~

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[info]animechicky2040
2009-07-02 06:02 pm UTC (link)
With my engagement ring, I think it depends on what I'm wearing. If I'm wearing something girly, no one would really notice it. But I flipped it around to look like a plain band when I wore Markl at Katsu since it looks a little odd with cross-play ^_-
Something like Utena when a ring is kinda a big plot point though, I'd probably take it off and put it on a chain like the others suggested.

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-08 07:48 pm UTC (link)
With my engagement ring, I think it depends on what I'm wearing. If I'm wearing something girly, no one would really notice it. But I flipped it around to look like a plain band when I wore Markl at Katsu since it looks a little odd with cross-play ^_-

True, I never even thought of that. I haven't really crossplayed...ever? I dressed up as The Crow a few times, but that was well before I had ever even heard of cosplay.

Something like Utena when a ring is kinda a big plot point though, I'd probably take it off and put it on a chain like the others suggested.

Makes sense!

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[info]ragamuffinz
2009-07-02 06:02 pm UTC (link)
now, i'm not married, but i wore a ring on my left ring finger for many many years. i never felt the need to take it off for cosplay, and if i happened to take if off for one reason or another, it would always be on my person anyway. i might jsut be weird though. i have a habit of never taking jewelry off once i put it on. it makes me feel naked.

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-08 07:44 pm UTC (link)
now, i'm not married, but i wore a ring on my left ring finger for many many years.

Ooh. Why?

i never felt the need to take it off for cosplay, and if i happened to take if off for one reason or another, it would always be on my person anyway. i might jsut be weird though. i have a habit of never taking jewelry off once i put it on. it makes me feel naked.

No, I know people who wear a lot of jewelry who feel that way. Me, I almost never wore jewelry on a day-to-day basis up until The Ring, so leaving it on required MUCH more adjustment than taking it off. Luckily it's a small ring, so I actually adjusted to it much more quickly than I thought I would.

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[info]sensitivinferno
2009-07-02 06:14 pm UTC (link)
I remove my engagement ring for cosplay, but always leave the band. It's just a simple white gold band, so if anyone wants to bother noticing it or bitching about it, they can bite me.

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-08 07:14 pm UTC (link)
I remove my engagement ring for cosplay, but always leave the band. It's just a simple white gold band,

Mine too!

so if anyone wants to bother noticing it or bitching about it, they can bite me.

LOL I would seriously enjoy watching you tear somebody a new one who tried that. It would be gruesome.

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[info]tyrus
2009-07-02 06:48 pm UTC (link)
We both take our rings off when necessary, and for a while Gigi wasn't wearing them at all because of a rash. She also won't wear the engagement ring when traveling. In fact, mine is on the nightstand in the other room ATM.

We have a bit of a running joke when going out, where one will ask the other if they are married tonight.

So do what you're comfortable with. But what I wouldn't recommend is just taking it off for pictures. Leave it on or leave it someplace safe. On and off while out is a bad idea.

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-08 07:06 pm UTC (link)
We both take our rings off when necessary, and for a while Gigi wasn't wearing them at all because of a rash. She also won't wear the engagement ring when traveling.

Yeah, I think a lot of ladies do that, because they don't want to tempt any muggers.

In fact, mine is on the nightstand in the other room ATM.

We have a bit of a running joke when going out, where one will ask the other if they are married tonight.

LOL! Somehow, I never noticed. I think you usually wear your wedding ring around me. (Is that supposed to discourage me or something? Because I guarantee you it wouldn't make a difference either way...::wink::)

So do what you're comfortable with. But what I wouldn't recommend is just taking it off for pictures. Leave it on or leave it someplace safe. On and off while out is a bad idea.

That I'll give you--I wasn't really equating cosplay with hotels, believe it or not. I'll cross that bridge when I come to it (probably not until next year's Otakon) but for now I'll definitely keep it by my bedside for photoshoots and local cons.

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[info]awakesoon
2009-07-02 07:22 pm UTC (link)
I think I'd take it off (never, EVER wear jewelry in the shower or the pool! EVER! Even [dare I say especially?] your precious metals. Water is horrible for metals and stones, and can potentially loosen the prongs holding your stone on aside from just degrading the metal, and you definitely do NOT want to lose that!), but I expect I'd still keep it ON me, on a necklace or hidden somewhere else.

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-08 06:56 pm UTC (link)
I think I'd take it off (never, EVER wear jewelry in the shower or the pool! EVER! Even [dare I say especially?] your precious metals. Water is horrible for metals and stones,

...okay, I gotta admit I've been horrible about this, leaving my ring on when I'm showering and yes, even in the pool, because my mother never took her ring off for anything when I was a kid and I never noticed any damage done to it. What does water do to gold? What does water do to stones--I was justifying my reasoning by thinking that diamond is the hardest substance around.

and can potentially loosen the prongs holding your stone on aside from just degrading the metal, and you definitely do NOT want to lose that!),

That I did not know.

but I expect I'd still keep it ON me, on a necklace or hidden somewhere else.

::nod nod::

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(no subject) - [info]awakesoon, 2009-07-08 07:53 pm UTC (Expand)

[info]mako_jess
2009-07-02 07:45 pm UTC (link)
I used to take mine off, or at the very least turn them around. I don't think taking the off makes you any less married.

But, if you want to keep them on, keep them on. If someone nitpicks you that much they are losers.

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-08 06:48 pm UTC (link)
I used to take mine off, or at the very least turn them around. I don't think taking the off makes you any less married.

That's my thinking.

But, if you want to keep them on, keep them on. If someone nitpicks you that much they are losers.

That's true too, although I'm really not too worried about people judging my costumes, it's more about my inane pleasure at accuracy. I guess I'm more worried about people judging my commitment to Marvel? Though really that's none of their business either. I was just curious as to what other people have done.

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[info]fauxfire76
2009-07-02 07:45 pm UTC (link)
While I don't care really one way or another about the ring on my finger, the collar NEVER comes off and it hasn't since it was first put on over a year ago.

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-08 06:52 pm UTC (link)
While I don't care really one way or another about the ring on my finger, the collar NEVER comes off and it hasn't since it was first put on over a year ago.

What's your collar made out of? Can you go in swimming pools and everything with it?

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[info]oshidori
2009-07-02 07:50 pm UTC (link)
Since I lose everything I haven't taken that thing of since it was put on!

Although I think I might have once for a photoshoot but for hall cosplay I don't think it matters if it's on or not.

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-08 06:23 pm UTC (link)
Since I lose everything I haven't taken that thing of since it was put on!

That's a good reason! That's a good reason.

Although I think I might have once for a photoshoot but for hall cosplay I don't think it matters if it's on or not.

Fair enough--people are less likely to focus on your hands in the hallway (especially if it's just a passing glance) than they are in the multiple angles and multiple shots of a photoshoot.

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[info]ssfseiyakou
2009-07-02 08:05 pm UTC (link)
See, the turning it around things scares me if it has stones. If you whack it just the right way, the stones will fall out. I'd rather take it off (and put it on a chain, if necessary) than risk losing the stones, but that's just me.

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[info]ainobethie
2009-07-02 10:24 pm UTC (link)
agreed. I do the chain thing with mine if I don't have a costume with a subspace pocket. Although now I'm starting to think I should do that anyway...

Besides, my central stone on my ring belonged to Nathan's grandmother. If anything ever happened to it, we'd be in BIG trouble. Even so, if I die before Nathan's mom, the ring will be returned to her.

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[info]ainobethie
2009-07-02 10:21 pm UTC (link)
When I first got engaged, I did Princess Serenity, so I could flaunt it somewhat. XD Once married (and subsequently KNOCKED UP!) I did Neo Queen Serenity and got to double flaunt it because of the added bling ring. In both cases, I also did Sailor Moon on another day. The first time...I wore the engagement ring. But because of how large my diamond is, it made it uncomfortable because it kept sliding to the side of my finger and poking my other fingers or, if it somehow was sticking straight up, it was very, VERY noticeable. The second time...I took it off. But put it in my subspace pocket under my collar so room service couldn't swipe it. :P

This past Acen was a convention of gloves. Kurumi had gloves. Venus had gloves. Super Moon had gloves. Kurumi didn't have a pocket, so I put my my engagement ring on a chain and wore it around my neck. It's not like it would be seen anyway with a button up shirt like that. For the other two costumes, I had subspace pockets to keep it in. However, since I have gotten my wedding ring, I have never taken it off for cosplay. It's small and dainty so it's easily hidden.

Nathan, however, who wears Moonlight Knight from time to time does not take his ring off. And I love that. Cosplay does not override marriage or the jewelry involved. (...or perhaps it's an answer to that time at Otakon when I was pregnant and someone asked Nathan, "are you the father?" O___O) Likewise, when I don't have to wear gloves, I keep my rings on. In that case, accuracy can take a hike.

Edited at 2009-07-02 10:22 pm UTC

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-08 03:59 pm UTC (link)
When I first got engaged, I did Princess Serenity, so I could flaunt it somewhat. XD

::grins:: Yeah, that is definitely a dress that allows for a lot of bling.

Once married (and subsequently KNOCKED UP!) I did Neo Queen Serenity and got to double flaunt it because of the added bling ring.

LOL Awesome!

In both cases, I also did Sailor Moon on another day. The first time...I wore the engagement ring. But because of how large my diamond is, it made it uncomfortable because it kept sliding to the side of my finger and poking my other fingers

God, I HATE THAT! My biggest pet peeve about wearing rings, gloves or no. Luckily my stone isn't very big and my band is fairly snug, so it doesn't slide a lot.

or, if it somehow was sticking straight up, it was very, VERY noticeable.

Yeah. That would bother me.

The second time...I took it off. But put it in my subspace pocket under my collar so room service couldn't swipe it. :P

::nods:: Smart, smart.

This past Acen was a convention of gloves. Kurumi had gloves. Venus had gloves. Super Moon had gloves. Kurumi didn't have a pocket, so I put my my engagement ring on a chain and wore it around my neck. It's not like it would be seen anyway with a button up shirt like that.

A lot of people seem to be suggesting this. I'll have to start taking a look at the necklines of my costumes--I feel like they're mostly fairly low-cut, but that could just be my faulty memory.

For the other two costumes, I had subspace pockets to keep it in. However, since I have gotten my wedding ring, I have never taken it off for cosplay. It's small and dainty so it's easily hidden.

I should keep this in mind, too. Marvel and I are going with small, plain, white gold bands, so they're certainly not super-noticeable.

Nathan, however, who wears Moonlight Knight from time to time does not take his ring off. And I love that. Cosplay does not override marriage or the jewelry involved.

Fair enough. :)

(...or perhaps it's an answer to that time at Otakon when I was pregnant and someone asked Nathan, "are you the father?" O___O)

While that face would've been my initial reaction too, it's not the stupidest question I've ever heard. Not all boyfriends/husbands/baby daddies cosplay, and he might just be a good friend that decided to match you. Marvel and I both cosplay, and we STILL have yet to play an actual "one true pairing"--all of my characters are either manhaters (Rei), or we end up picking characters with really messed-up relationships (Utena and Touga, E.E. and Otacon.)

Likewise, when I don't have to wear gloves, I keep my rings on. In that case, accuracy can take a hike.

::grins:: Fair enough!

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[info]alkrea
2009-07-02 10:56 pm UTC (link)
I honestly would more than likely leave the rings at home during a con. Sure beats me losing them or getting stolen. I have had a history of losing things at cons, so, yeah... I try to advoid bring small items that are important/expensive.

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[info]kotono
2009-07-02 11:19 pm UTC (link)
I second this! I remember the camera incident! You also do have a tendancy of forgetting things to bring to cons, buts thats understandable. I remember Peter's reaction. CLASSIC!

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[info]starchild_295
2009-07-02 11:28 pm UTC (link)
My mom always took her engagement ring of to shower or do dishes or the like, but left the wedding band on. It's small enough that it should be easy to disguise or ignore with a costume. At least I would think - it's not like I have any practical experience with either rings or custumes.

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-08 03:30 pm UTC (link)
My mom always took her engagement ring of to shower or do dishes or the like, but left the wedding band on. It's small enough that it should be easy to disguise or ignore with a costume.

Mmm, good point.

At least I would think - it's not like I have any practical experience with either rings or custumes.

Want to get into cosplay? It's fu-un!

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[info]usagi_sern
2009-07-03 01:41 am UTC (link)
I would (if the costume allowed it) wear the ring on a necklace under the costume. Like your Utena. If not I would just wear the ring. ^_^ Soo the character got married! It could happen! ^_^

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-08 03:29 pm UTC (link)
I would (if the costume allowed it) wear the ring on a necklace under the costume. Like your Utena. If not I would just wear the ring. ^_^ Soo the character got married! It could happen! ^_^

True, I just can't necessarily picture Sailor Mars or, better yet, Utena getting married. Why do I always end up picking the man-hating characters to cosplay? That's so not me in real life! LOL.

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[info]ryusen
2009-07-06 08:05 pm UTC (link)
I already told Wils that i'd likely wear my ring on a chain, because my fingers are funny shaped and don't hold rings well.

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[info]sunseenli
2009-07-08 01:49 pm UTC (link)
You know, I've never had a ring fit as well as this one does. Normally I don't like wearing rings at all (even though many are really pretty) because the bases of my fingers are narrower than the knuckles, so the heavier stone causes the band to rotate and the stone usually ends up jabbing my pinky, which is SUPER unpleasant. But this ring is the right size; it takes soap and water to get it on and off, but it doesn't spin/rotate at ALL. And I'm sure the non-stone wedding band will be even more comfortable. It's all about proper sizing.

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